I recently returned from a beautiful, refreshing retreat in Costa Rica. This was a spiritual awakening and healing retreat, whose intention is really your own intention – so, you get what you give. For me, I went in with the intention of letting go of what was holding me back from moving on to the next level. And I had many thoughts of what I believed to be holding me back, but during my stay I found I was quite wrong.
What stuck out to me the most was the idea of shame. Most of what I was holding on to was held together by the thought that I wasn’t supposed to feel what I was feeling. For example, “I’m not supposed to feel embarrassed,” “I’m not supposed to want to let go of this person,” “I’m not supposed to want to stay little,” “I’m not supposed to want to rest,” etc.
It wasn’t until my return that I realized a lot us really hold onto shame. I met with my staff shortly after and told them about my experience. During conversation, we all spoke on things we felt were keeping us down and unable to move forward or be happy where we were. It was here that I noticed, we all 2 things in common:
- We are all going through a human experience
- Somehow, we are all ashamed of these human experiences
Why is it that we feel so much shame over situations or feelings that are simply human experiences? Most of the time, we don’t sit with ourselves enough to really understand why we feel the way we feel. I encourage you to take the time to sit with your thoughts and decouple what part is a shame and what part is your truth. You may find that once you remove the shame, it may be easier to let go of.