When you are aware of the shame you feel and where it stems from, it becomes easier to make choices that will no longer lead you towards that path. Everything in our lives stems from a choice we make. There are plenty of lessons to learn within those choices but choosing the options/behaviors/paths that align with your truth and/or purpose will leave you feeling less shame.
Think of a time you made a choice and immediately felt shame. This could be as little as choosing to eat an unhealthy meal vs. a nutritious meal or as big as choosing to argue with your partner vs. letting it go. Now think of how good you felt when you know in your gut you made the right choice. Why do we consistently make the “wrong,” choice, even when we know how shameful we will feel right afterward? Typically, this is because we are so comfortable with those feelings vs the good ones. It’s so much easier to stay in this comfort zone of shame. As long as we continue to stay in this comfort zone of shame, we will have yet to see and feel a life in which we are truly living at our highest self.
For me, I choose love. I am love, I give love, I receive love. This choice for me makes it easier to stay aligned to my truth and hardly feel shame. It doesn’t matter if I seemingly made the wrong choice, If I did so in love, then I am content with my choice. I’ve also come to realize that as long as the choices come from me, for me, then the feelings of shame don’t happen as often. For you this might mean saying no to a dinner request, even if its an uncomfortable conversation, without feeling ashamed of that choice because does not align with your truth. We must get used to making uncomfortable choices; choices that we often don’t make but will build up to have the most positive outcomes and reassure us of our truths.