I’ve recently noticed a shift in media, especially social media and within younger audiences, geared towards the idea of being selfish. This idea that you should cut off anyone and anything that does not serve you. Although I do agree that we must take time for ourselves, prioritize our own mental and physical health, etc., I hope this does not get misunderstood or miscommunicated with lack of connectedness.
Throughout my life experiences I have learned that despite how much a certain thing or person does not “serve me,” or align with my purpose, I still find myself suffering by letting it go. In my own cases, I find that the suffering really comes from the fact that what I really wanted was to be connected to that thing or person in the first place. And in order to move on, what needs to happen is the realization as to why I wanted that connection.
As an example, think of a time that you had a disagreement with a family member or friend. You probably didn’t want to just let that person go, because they mean so much to you, yet you are angry or hurt and can’t find a meeting ground. So you spend so much time suffering through this experience of not being able to talk to them or be with them, and at the end of it all, all you really want is to be connected to them again. Yes, you can choose to let them (or it) go, but until you find the source of what was or is keeping you connected to them, it may be difficult to find peace within yourself.
My hope is that as we become more “selfish,” as a society, we don’t forget that we truly do need each other. There is so much to learn and gain from living a life in which you value others, what they create, and how we are all connected. I live in my own purpose, but I recognize that my purpose is connected to everyone and everything else.