Over the course of my adult dating life, I have come across all kinds of people. Each dealing with their own traumas and insecurities, fighting to stand in their truth (or not at all). Now, all I can say is I am grateful I have learned to stand in mine.
Communication is crucial when dating, but what we fail to understand is that most of the time, what people say has everything to do with them and almost nothing to do with us. We interpret what others say as if its about us, and rarely explicitly ask if it is, or what they truly mean by their statement. Every negative or positive thing that is communicated is just a reflection of how they feel, and how we receive it has everything to do with how we feel about ourselves.
And what is the best way to combat this? Always stand in your truth and learn to listen. What I know now is that I only want to be around people, and a significant other especially, who can stand in their truth. And it may take a long time to get there but being in a relationship with someone who can at least recognize what feelings are and are not true to them, is truly a blessing. When communicating, listen to what is actually being said – does this statement have anything to do with you? Are you interpreting it with what you think they meant, or are you standing in what is true to you? If you choose the latter, you will likely find yourself more at peace and prevent arguments, miscommunications, and hurt feelings.